BEYOND SHAME
CREATING A HEALTHY
SEX LIFE ON YOUR
OWN TERMS
BEYOND SHAME
CREATING A HEALTHY
SEX LIFE ON YOUR
OWN TERMS
“Beyond Shame cuts to the heart of our cultural shame around sex and sexuality and points us toward freedom from that shame in a way that invites readers of all identities and orientations toward health and love. This is an essential work.”
Mike McHargue, host of Ask Science Mike and author of Finding God in the Waves
“Beyond Shame cuts to the heart of our cultural shame around sex and sexuality and points us toward freedom from that shame in a way that invites readers of all identities and orientations toward health and love. This is an essential work.”
Mike McHargue, host of Ask Science Mike and author of Finding God in the Waves
We all carry sexual shame.
Whether we grew up in the repressive purity culture of American evangelical Christianity or not, we’ve all been taught in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that sex (outside of very specific contexts) is immoral and taboo. Psychotherapist Matthias Roberts helps readers work with their shame around sex by overcoming three unhealthy coping mechanisms we use to manage that shame.
Beyond Shame encourages each of us to determine our own definition of healthy sex, while avoiding the ditches of boundaryless sex positivity on the one hand and strict moralistic lines on the other. Define your sexual values on your own terms, overcome your shame, and start having great, healthy sex.
Order Now:
We all carry sexual shame.
Whether we grew up in the repressive purity culture of American evangelical Christianity or not, we’ve all been taught in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that sex (outside of very specific contexts) is immoral and taboo. Psychotherapist Matthias Roberts helps readers work with their shame around sex by overcoming three unhealthy coping mechanisms we use to manage that shame.
Beyond Shame encourages each of us to determine our own definition of healthy sex, while avoiding the ditches of boundaryless sex positivity on the one hand and strict moralistic lines on the other. Define your sexual values on your own terms, overcome your shame, and start having great, healthy sex.
Order Now:
Here’s What People are Saying About Beyond Shame:
“In Beyond Shame, Matthias invites us to first notice the shame surrounding our sexuality and then to step beyond it. This book is for anyone who has ever doubted if their sexuality is good or loves someone who has.”
– Hillary McBride, PhD, therapist, speaker, and author of Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are
“All readers…will come away feeling energized and equipped to deploy the suggestions for healthier sexuality without the weight of shame.”
– Publishers Weekly
“In Beyond Shame, Matthias sets up a theologically thoughtful and accessible framework in which to think specifically through the entanglement of sex and shame in our culture. His personal stories and how he lives this out make this work compelling, and it challenges me to actively live in the beauty of this struggle.”
– Mihee Kim-Kort, author of Outside the Lines: How Embracing Queerness Will Transform Your Faith
“This book is an invitation to express our sexuality in a way that’s free of shame and rooted in love. Matthias delivers fascinating research in a pastoral manner, giving us the resources we need to live with integrity in light of our values.”
– Julie Rodgers, writer, speaker, and advocate for LGBTQ Christians
“Equal parts academic knowledge and experiential wisdom, Matthias has painstakingly and lovingly created a phenomenal resource for those wondering where to begin in rebuilding a new sexual ethic out of the ashes of their former fundamentalism. I am ecstatic to be able to offer this book as a resource to my clients, family, and friends.”
– Jamie Lee Finch, author of You Are Your Own: A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity
“Matthias eases us through the deconstruction of the sex-related shame that so many have grown up with, but he doesn’t leave us in the rubble. If you’re ready to start making something new, this book will offer questions and data you need to ponder in order to build that new structure: a model of ethical sexuality that takes all of who you are into account.”
– Austen Hartke, author of Transforming: The Bible and the Lives of Transgender Christians
“In Beyond Shame, Matthias asks questions and brings up issues that are difficult to discuss in our current sexual climate, yet so incredibly necessary. I’m so thankful for his contribution to the project of developing healthy sexuality after purity culture.”
– Emily Joy Allison-Hearn, cocreator of the #ChurchToo movement, embodied justice advocate, poet, and yoga teacher
“With Beyond Shame, Matthias Roberts is at work putting outdated ideologies to rest for those of us still piecing together the shambles of a lopsided sexual ethic.”
“Compassionate and intelligent, Beyond Shame is a step-by-step guide to reconnecting spirit and body, helping readers claim the joy and health of sex.”
– Rev. Elizabeth M. Edman, author of Queer Virtue: What LGBTQ People Know about Life and Love and How It Can Revitalize Christianity
“This book will make you fall in love with your humanity, your sexuality, and your true self all over again.”
– Sam Lamott, producer and host of How to Human
Here’s What People are Saying About Beyond Shame:
“In Beyond Shame, Matthias invites us to first notice the shame surrounding our sexuality and then to step beyond it. This book is for anyone who has ever doubted if their sexuality is good or loves someone who has.”
– Hillary McBride, PhD, therapist, speaker, and author of Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are
“All readers…will come away feeling energized and equipped to deploy the suggestions for healthier sexuality without the weight of shame.”
– Publishers Weekly
“In Beyond Shame, Matthias sets up a theologically thoughtful and accessible framework in which to think specifically through the entanglement of sex and shame in our culture. His personal stories and how he lives this out make this work compelling, and it challenges me to actively live in the beauty of this struggle.”
– Mihee Kim-Kort, author of Outside the Lines: How Embracing Queerness Will Transform Your Faith
“This book is an invitation to express our sexuality in a way that’s free of shame and rooted in love. Matthias delivers fascinating research in a pastoral manner, giving us the resources we need to live with integrity in light of our values.”
– Julie Rodgers, writer, speaker, and advocate for LGBTQ Christians
“Equal parts academic knowledge and experiential wisdom, Matthias has painstakingly and lovingly created a phenomenal resource for those wondering where to begin in rebuilding a new sexual ethic out of the ashes of their former fundamentalism. I am ecstatic to be able to offer this book as a resource to my clients, family, and friends.”
– Jamie Lee Finch, author of You Are Your Own: A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity
“Matthias eases us through the deconstruction of the sex-related shame that so many have grown up with, but he doesn’t leave us in the rubble. If you’re ready to start making something new, this book will offer questions and data you need to ponder in order to build that new structure: a model of ethical sexuality that takes all of who you are into account.”
– Austen Hartke, author of Transforming: The Bible and the Lives of Transgender Christians
“In Beyond Shame, Matthias asks questions and brings up issues that are difficult to discuss in our current sexual climate, yet so incredibly necessary. I’m so thankful for his contribution to the project of developing healthy sexuality after purity culture.”
– Emily Joy Allison-Hearn, cocreator of the #ChurchToo movement, embodied justice advocate, poet, and yoga teacher
“With Beyond Shame, Matthias Roberts is at work putting outdated ideologies to rest for those of us still piecing together the shambles of a lopsided sexual ethic.”
“Compassionate and intelligent, Beyond Shame is a step-by-step guide to reconnecting spirit and body, helping readers claim the joy and health of sex.”
– Rev. Elizabeth M. Edman, author of Queer Virtue: What LGBTQ People Know about Life and Love and How It Can Revitalize Christianity
“This book will make you fall in love with your humanity, your sexuality, and your true self all over again.”
– Sam Lamott, producer and host of How to Human
About Matthias
Matthias Roberts is a licensed mental-health counselor associate in Seattle, Washington, and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. He holds two masters degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, he specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. He writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology.
